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04/04/08 12:28 AM | category: Revenge

So I need someone's anonymous opinion:

Ex-bf of 3 years is dating a new girl. Consequently the girl he cheated on me with. Yet even after I've pushed him away several times, not talked to him for months at a time, etc. he still claims to me and to her that he cannot and will not live without me in his life. She hates me. I'm assuming mostly because she's afraid he's still in love with me or that she'll lose him to him cheating on her. But no matter what she says to him, how much she cries/yells/pleads/etc., he refuses to give me up.

The question is, does this seem to anyone else like he's not over me? Or am I crazy? I mean, pissing off your new gf because you can't deal with not having your ex-gf in the picture seems severe. Right?

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Anonymous said:
run away as fast as you can
April 4, 2008 11:36 AM
Anonymous said:
It could mean anything, or nothing. Men are crazy sometimes. I was madly in love with a guy who dumped me for someone else, but wanted to stay friends. I still had strong feelings for him. We talked every day, he invited me everywhere and it was really a lot like our relationship except he was sleeping with someone else. He didn't understand why it was too hard for me to continue to be that close when he didn't want to be with me. When I finally said I couldn't be friends anymore he cried and cried, but he still married her. And yeah, she hated me, still does even though I haven't spoken to him in years.
April 4, 2008 12:20 PM
Anonymous said:
Sounds to me like he made a mistake, and he knows it. And no, he's not over you but he's not about to give up on her, probably just trying to make her leave by being a total ass. Sounds like a classic cake of "the grass is always greener on the other side" For this guy- that will always be the case...
April 4, 2008 1:21 PM
Anonymous said:
To be honest, it seems like this guy has waaayyyy too much control over this situation. It also seems like he wants his cake and ice cream too! My opinion is this: Leave him alone. He obviously didn't care enough about you to NOT cheat on you, and now that he is dating the girl he cheated on you with, he still wants you around? Sounds like he wants what he can't have. Never a good type.
April 4, 2008 1:50 PM
Anonymous said:
I completely agree with you. He doesn't seem over you. If he really and truly cared about this other person more than you, he would respect that person and be with her. Especially sine you seem pretty cool about letting him go.
April 4, 2008 2:05 PM
Anonymous said:
ugh, honey, get out while you still have what's left of your dignity. this guy is a loser, and if he's really not "over you," then do him a favor and help him get over you. the less of those kind of men you have in your life, the better.
April 4, 2008 3:25 PM
Anonymous said:
He's either not over you or he's hoping to booty call two girls at once by giving you these lines. Either way, he's too stupid and whiny to bother with and more trouble than he's worth so tell him to take a hike.
April 4, 2008 4:45 PM
Anonymous said:
I was in a similar situation. My ex-bf's girlfriend absolutely hated me, even though I did my best to stay out his life completely. Without trying to sound conceited, he really was still hung up on me and his gf could tell. It sucked for me, because I never got invited anywhere because she'd have a meltdown. And they are still together, even though he admits to fantasizing about us getting married, making babies etc. I say leave them both behind. You deserve better.
April 4, 2008 9:53 PM
Anonymous said:
I'm the original poster and let me say, its been nice to get an unbiased opinion! I am over him and have moved on. It's him that refuses to leave me alone. 99% of the time I just ignore him now. I agree that he seems to be in a "I want to have my cake and eat it, too!" phase, but that "phase" has lasted a year and seems not so phase-like anymore. Just annoying. But at least I don't feel like I was reading into the situation now. Thanks!
April 5, 2008 6:38 AM
Anonymous said:
i'm a guy and this dude seems like an extremely selfish person. good for you for moving on.
April 9, 2008 6:55 AM
Anonymous said:
don't do it...don't dip in that well. regardless, of whether he is or isn't over you, it sure appears that he wants to have you around as 'default', just in case. keep on moving on, girl! you deserve way better.
April 14, 2008 6:47 PM
Anonymous said:
You know what? Give HER a call, ask her out for coffee and become good friends. That will freak him the hell out, what a bastard he just wants it both ways and BOTH of you can certainly do better!
April 25, 2008 6:10 AM

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