What a jerk. Tell him to man up or move on.

If you are doing it all and he has no ambition to get a job, get rid of him. If he truly loved you, he would make the effort to get a job and pay his share. You are right, you are being used.

The best help I can give is this. Dump him and find a better man. You deserve better and he's using you big time. Sorry to be brutal but it's the truth.

LEAVE. Its that simple.

Oh god, I could have written this word for word. Wanna know what I did? Broke up with him 4 months ago. I loved him, but it wasn't enough. I was putting EVERYTHING into the relationship, and getting nothing back. And now I feel like I've made the best decision of my entire life. Just trust your instincts. It will be incredibly hard, but you'll know what's best for YOU in the end. Good luck!! xx

For three years I kept a boyfriend who didn't work, didn't really want to work and was happy being a househusband (in a small apartment without children, so it's not as if he had too much work really). We've had conversations about him being unemployed (and not because he was impaired in any way, except for laziness). Once, twice, three times, four, six, ten. Finally I broke up with him. He has a job now, but I suspect only because he couldn't find another kind soul willing to keep him.

Time to break up...

He IS using you. He'll never change, he has it too easy. Dump him. If he really loves you he'll step up, grow a pair, get a job and work like crazy to win you back. If he doesn't, well, you can thank your lucky stars you got shot of the boy and now you can find a man.

Dump him. Seriously. He obviously isn't worth it.

Read what you wrote back to yourself, and pretend someone else wrote it. What would you advise them to do? Perhaps: "Drop the loser now!"?

Dump him. That's my advice.

break up with him.

I've been in your exact situation and all I can say is DUMP HIM. It's more of a hassle to keep him than being single for a while and allowing the right man TO FIND YOU!!!

I can also empathize. This was me for 2 and a half years. I finally broke up with him almost three months ago and am happier than I have been in a long time. I have a new boyfriend with ambitions and goals (not to mention a job!). I wish I would have broken up with him sooner! It's also nice to be able to pay the rent and all my bills every month, since I don't have to support him anymore.