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05/08/08 11:10 AM | category: Cheating

My wife and I have sex once every 2 weeks or so. I would prefer 3-4 times a week. It was different the first year we were together, there was a lot of passion and sex.

I've tried everything, doing more housework, doing romantic things for her, telling her how much I love her but, everyone of those spice up your sex life articles and nothing has helped. We've talked about it and she keeps saying she'll try harder but nothing changes and I don't want someone to have to try so hard for something that should be more natural. We're only in our late 20's. Sex is very important to me and I want more from my marriage but I feel like I've run out of options. Is divorce or cheating the only options left?

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Anonymous said:
if she's on any sort of hormone birth controle that may be the problem and she my not even know it. It does a serious number on a womens sex drive.
May 8, 2008 2:11 PM
Anonymous said:
Counseling? Sex counseling? Maybe she's on some medication that messes w/her libido...? Good luck!
May 8, 2008 3:39 PM
Anonymous said:
I don't know if this will make you feel better or not, but in my late 20's my sex drive was crap. As soon as I hit 30 i couldn't/can't get enough.
May 8, 2008 5:07 PM
Anonymous said:
Divorce.
May 8, 2008 5:23 PM
Anonymous said:
I'm in the opposite boat. I offer to go down on my boyfriend or to have sex several times a day, I grab his bum whenever no one's looking, even in the grocery store, I've even put his hands on my boob when he's glued to the computer, all in a bid to get him to be more romantic and attentive, and just NOTHING works. UH!
May 8, 2008 8:13 PM
Anonymous said:
She's on BC. We tried being off of it for a few months but it didn't help that much. She says it's not me it's her emotional issues. She's about 20lbs overweight but that seems to be a problem for her and not me, she wants to change but she's not had much luck. I feel like I could be an even better husband if I just got some lovin a little more often... sigh. I find my thoughts straying into dangerous waters sometimes, I'm fighting an uphill battle with nature. I guess I'll keep my fingers crossed for hitting the mythical 30's libido. Thanks for all your comments!
May 8, 2008 8:44 PM
Anonymous said:
The 30's are insane ask my poor husband that can't seem to keep up with my drive. (he's the same age) Oh and it took nearly a year before the hormones from the Pill were out of my system so that could still be your wifes problem. I also found it easier to lose weight off the pill. I think your wife needs to talk to her Dr. And you should explain to your wife (if you haven't already) in a loving way that your mind is starting to wander because of the lack of affection your getting from her and that it's not what you want. Good Luck. You sound like a wonderful husband that really loves his wife.
May 9, 2008 6:37 AM
Anonymous said:
Just a couple of month's off the BC? That may not be enough. It could take longer for it to get out of her system. And just 20lbs overweight... that's nothing. How often do you compliment her?
May 9, 2008 10:14 AM
Anonymous said:
I had the same problem and did end up getting divorced. I was working two jobs, cooked almost everyday, helped clean, did the yard by myself, washed both cars, and was getting some MAYBE once a week. And when I did get some it was because she was performing her "duty". I feel for ya.
May 9, 2008 10:49 AM
Anonymous said:
Sometimes you're just gonna go through a dry spell together... it's normal. It's a cycle. It'll pick back up again - hang in there!
May 9, 2008 8:33 PM
Anonymous said:
As a woman, I hate the pill, it KILLS my sex drive... without it I am a complete freak, with it... booooorrrring. Hang in there, work with her. If you cheat, you'll be lucky to ever have a sex life with her again.
May 13, 2008 12:03 AM
Anonymous said:
Hun. I'm in the same boat...but I'm the wife. 3-4 times a week? Heck...if you were mine, You'd get it 3-4 times a day. My hubby can't keep up. It sucks and I won't tell you to cheat, but I've done it and although it was the best thing that's ever happened to my body...it was such a disastrous in our marriage. We worked things out, but our sex is still lame.
June 20, 2008 1:26 PM

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