I'm so sorry to hear that.. Unfortunately, the answer is... no one knows... My mother in law was raped as a young adult... she's now 63... She says she's had sex maybe a dozen times... Find a new therapist... work through it, talk about it.

Your virginity cannot be taken from you. It is something you have to make a choice to give to someone else. Best wishes in moving forward in your life, and as the previous poster said, find a new therapist!!

I'm glad to hear you're talking to a therapist. That helps. I lost my virginity to rape as well, and a year later, I met a wonderful boy who never pushed me and who let me set the pace. Knowing I could trust him let me feel comfortable enough to let him touch me.

I to am sorry to hear that. But don't worry. Stay positive. It will return when you learn to own your sexuality, both physically and emotionally. Believe me, it's there. You just need to give yourself time to heal and grow. Babysteps...

I know it isn't the same - both of my parents sexually abused me when I was very young. At age 19 I started to acknowledge it but it took another six years for me to be ready to work on "stuff." I've seen a lot of therapists and it was no easy task finding one that I liked and believed in. You might consider trying to find a different therapist but don't give up-there are all kinds of supportive networks available to you and perhaps you can find a few references from a local outreach center. Sometimes it can be triggering to talk with other people but for some people it is really important to be able to share and discuss feelings with other survivors-browse the net for support forums if that feels right to you. It is impossible to say when you might be interested in having sex again or when you will be comfortable exploring your sexuality. There is no timeline and everyone's process is different. Try not to judge yourself harshly. Accept where you are in your process on a day-to-day basis. Know that your feelings are normal and understandable. I promise that it can get better when you're ready to do what you need to do. It isn't easy, but there is hope. I am so sorry that you went through that experience. One thing that kept me going was reminding myself that I would eventually do something productive and useful with that trauma and turn it into something that would help others. Find something that keeps you going-it can be anything...sunny days, pets, hikes, reading, writing, exercise, time by yourself, etc. Don't lose sight of the things that bring you joy.

definitely find a new therapist. find someone you feel comfortable talking to and that you feel is helping you in whatever way you need. as far as sex, it really is up to you and how you feel. don't feel pressure from yourself or anyone else to do anything until you're ready. you've been through something traumatic, give yourself time to heal

That is a personal thing. Everyone copes differently. I was raped at 13, and never had the interest in sex that my peers did growing up because mine had been stolen from me before it'd ever really emerged. I was 19 before I was ready, and a good part of that was that I love him. But one of my friends in high school was also raped, and a year later she was ready for sex again.

i too was raped, and it was 3 years ago now, and i still fel somewhat numb during sex, but i just use my willpower to really focus and it's helped a lot. we've also done some relaxaion techniques and they've definately helped.