YES! I did. We have been together for 2years and getting married in the spring.

Um.....no.

Definitely!!

YES. I found a good man who doesn't "expect sex," and he's normal as can be. Men like this aren't common, but they're not hard to find. You just have to look in the right places. Although, once you find him, good luck resisting him...I'm having a pretty hard time myself :)

The man who will be right for you won't mind waiting. Today's society tends to see waiting as less normal than you find it. I don't mean to sound rude, because although I never intended to wait, I completely respect your opinion to. Still, there are guys out there who would wait, and hopefully you'll find them. :)

DO NOT wait until you are married. Would you buy a car without a test drive? This is the rest of your life you are talking about. Sex is a big part of marriage. If you are not sexually compatible, then watch out.

I don't know many guy that buy a car without a test drive first... Good luck finding one.

You are probably not the only one. I thought I was the only one around and went out and hooked up just to get it done. When I asked around, figuring I was the last one, all my friends were still virgins and they now call me "psycho slut" for worrying about being neurotic about being the last virgin and just doing it to have it over. You can meet guys who are respectful and who will not force or even expect sex so long as you are up front about it.

Props to you for waiting. I'm about the same age and still a virgin. I'm glad to know there is someone else out there that is waiting till they get married. It's not that I'm super religius, it's just that sex is a really intimate thing. I don't want to have that kind of intimacy with anyone other than my husband.

I agree with many of the others. I would NEVER marry someone with whom I had not had sex.

If you're not ready to have sex yet, you don't necessarily have to date a guy who is waiting for marriage. There are guys out there who are aren't in a hurry to have sex, but are also not fundamentalists who are "saving themselves" for their wives. There is a middle ground. I'm lucky to know several good guys like that...they're content to date and be intimate with girls but not have sex with them. But they're also not against the idea of sex if they feel ready sometime before marriage. There's a difference between premarital sex at age 20 and premarital sex when you're almost 30...who knows, you might be ready by then. If you limit yourself to the guys who are set on waiting for marriage and marriage alone, you might miss out.

I didn't have sex until I was 20...he was my bf then and my husband now. He had no problem waiting and has always been considerate in the sex department. Just be up front and honest, follow what feels right FOR YOU, etc. You will be fine.

Just find a hopeless romantic that doesn't care for sex until marriage, or a long ways down the road. It's what I want to do as well, and I am a hopeless romantic as well, and a virgin guy ;)

yes...i was 23 when i got married and my husband was 26. we were both virgins. we both waited till our wedding night. it is possible, and there are still a lot of virgins out there. my best friend is 25 and still a virgin. hang on, it is an amazing feeling knowing that we have only been with each other.

What would be "normal" about an adult male wanting to WAIT for something that is perfectly natural, and a basic emotional need?

i totally agree with the test drive concept and the july 23, 6:17am post. i would definitely wait for the right guy to share my first time, but i wouldn't stay with him if he's going to turn out to be sexually incompatible with me for the rest of our marriage. it's important to make sure before making such a commitment. just my two cents.