That really sucks, and part of your situation has happened to me before, but I wasn't in a club when I met him. I was deployed. He said he was single, and he wasn't in my unit so I didn't know him. How was I supposed to know he was married with LOTS of children? It's not like his daily activities would give it away or something. I had nothing but his word to go on, plus I was single, and cheaters were not really something I gave much or any thought to since it wasn't an issue in my life. Well, his wife made my life hell when she found out about us. She wouldn't get off my Commander's tail until he took my rank, and I ended up getting orders to somewhere else that was REALLY bad. They said that part was random, but I've never seen a report date that close to the issue date before. That wife threatened someone and got that done. Pathetic since I dumped his loser ass when I found out he was married, and she just wouldn't quit until I paid for the fact that she married an idiot. Women like that slay me.

This has never happened to me - but I agree!

Been there done that! I feel your pain honey *big hugs*. Its like I'm sorry your man is such a sleez-bag, excuse be for not getting the FBI to check him out first. Quit making my life and livng he** and put the blame where its due. Geez stop blaming me! Hang in there. It will pass in time, but I know first hand how much of a headache it is.