you can feel the spasms in the vagina too.

Yeah, just touch the vagina, your partner might not want a sudden finger against her butthole during an orgasm.

I fake the spasms too (quick kegels, that's it)... guess I'm a perfectionist

I try to hide it from bf when I'm about to go off, because he goes off as soon as I start, and I want to try to make the whole thing last longer. (I hate when he stops while I'm still going.) If he can tell, even though I'm trying to HIDE it, that must mean there are some internal signals that give it away. If you can't feel anything going on inside there, chances are she IS faking it. But what do I know? I've never been on the other side of the transaction!

not everyone orgasms the same way I have very raely had mucle spasms and I have great orgasims why fake it when it feels so good....

The muscles spasms make me cum. It's like vigorous sucking. If I'm already good and hard, I can't stand it, I shoot away. Simultaneous orgasm. It's a magnificent, mystical, almost religious experience when you both orgasm at the exact same moment. I've experienced it only with a couple partners, a few times. It's mind-blowing. The spasms are a good indicator. So are a flush on the chest, and, for most women, sudden nipple erection afterwards. And squirting too. Many women squirt, and some have squirted farther than I can!