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08/04/08 8:48 AM | category: Doing It

Here's a poll (pun intended) for the ladies. I see a lot of women posting here that they want it rough and hard, to have a man bend them over and take it and so on and so on with a million different variations. My questions is "Why does that get you going?" Is it the act of being dominated and/or taken roughly, the lust and urgency or something else? I know it will be different things to different women but I am looking for a few common threads Purely scientific research mind you.

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Anonymous said:
if hes rough then it shows that he wants me so much he can't control himself. and a bit of roughness shows that he's tough and masculine as well.
August 4, 2008 11:57 AM
Anonymous said:
Masochism, pure and simple. I like it when it hurts, when his fingers are tangled in my hair and he yanks, to be spanked, bitten, and pushed.
August 4, 2008 12:03 PM
Anonymous said:
Well, if it's for science...LOL! Seriously, for me, it's the urgency, the sense that he has to have me now, that is such a turn on about that. But then, I get turned on when I push him down and just take him, too. ;)
August 4, 2008 12:09 PM
Anonymous said:
while sweet and loving sex is all good, sometimes you just need to be f*cked. the rough and hard is awesome because you're in a different state of mind, you need him so badly and he needs you so badly that it's like it can't be hard enough or fast enough...
August 4, 2008 12:16 PM
Anonymous said:
For me it's being dominated. I love when my BF treats me like I'm his slut. It makes me soooo wet!!!! Especially if I'm mad at him for something ( I will pretend not to want him to touch me and try to resist him which makes it even hotter ), he will bend me over and grab me by my hips and start pounding me while he is pulling my hair! Needless to say I never stay mad at him! =)
August 4, 2008 12:25 PM
Anonymous said:
For me, it's the thrill of overcoming all societal hangups about being fully sexually empowered and getting what I want (a good, hard f***ing). I lose my inhibitions by pretending they're being taken away from me. Every girl's dream: Take me out for a nice time. I'm dressed sexy and I can see in your eyes how bad you want me. Take me home. Bend me over the back of the couch. Flip my skirt up or yank my pants down. Pull my thong to the side and take me roughly from behind. YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!
August 4, 2008 12:38 PM
Anonymous said:
Not me, I love knowing that I have someone who takes his time to make sure that I like it as much as he does. That's what people in love do.
August 4, 2008 1:15 PM
Anonymous said:
I spend 14 hours a day in a high flying management job. I boss people around, I make difficult decisions, I have budgetary control of over £10m. When I come home, I want someone else to be in charge!
August 4, 2008 1:39 PM
Anonymous said:
Its the urgency and the dominance for me. Its like hes saying your my woman and i want you RIGHT NOW so bend over and take it! Its just so hot, the roughness and the hair pulling and him pounding me hard and fast.
August 4, 2008 1:43 PM
Anonymous said:
It's just the emphasize on so called masculine traits that gets me going. Dominance, strength, roughness etc.
August 4, 2008 1:59 PM
Anonymous said:
Romance is nice, but the Pure animal lust of being 'taken' tells me he wants me Now which is a big turn on
August 4, 2008 2:24 PM
Anonymous said:
the lust and urgency for sure. Knowing he HAS to have me right that minute is such a turn on.
August 4, 2008 6:59 PM
Anonymous said:
Like the other girl said for me its masochism. Esp when I'm drunk, makes it all the more exciting because I feel even less able to strugle. The other night my friend and I were drinking and getting high, when we starting kissing he put his hand hard against my throat. It felt great.
August 4, 2008 7:53 PM
Anonymous said:
The sweet touching is nice, but hell, I'm not going to break - use me for a change and show me what you really want! I love the urgency, the power, the dominance when he has me ... it shows me how much he needs me then and I get off on that.
August 4, 2008 9:29 PM
Anonymous said:
I want to be used. I'm not some dainty little waif who will break if he puts his full weight on me or fucks me hard. Plus the added friction and pressure from being banged hard is insane. I love it!
August 4, 2008 11:42 PM
Anonymous said:
Lust and urgency vote here too...there is something about knowing that a man wants you sooooo badly that they can't contain themselves any more. Not *every* time mind you, but that level of sweat and panting is just seriously hot.
August 5, 2008 5:40 AM
Anonymous said:
It's a great boost to the self-esteem when a man desires you so much that he needs you NOW.
August 5, 2008 6:29 AM
Anonymous said:
12:25pm above was spot on. :)
August 6, 2008 6:45 PM
Anonymous said:
Lust, urgency, heat, and how good it can feel inside with a rough pounding. However, I'm not about dominance or masochism. I like it rough, but start trying to hurt me or acting like we're not (lustful, urgent) equals, and that's a huge turnoff.
August 8, 2008 7:36 AM
Anonymous said:
Absolutely agree with ^ 7:36
August 10, 2008 12:03 AM
Anonymous said:
For me, its not so much that I like it rough, but its the "surprise attack" that is the turn on. I don't want to know we are gonna have sex at 8pm, baby..just take me ;)
August 11, 2008 11:01 PM
Anonymous said:
I'm a guy and I hate rough sex. It's like exercise for me. I feel like I'm at the gym, doing push-ups. When a woman starts yelling "harder! faster!", it's like a coach yelling at me to keep my legs straight. If she's on top and jumping up and down on me then I feel like a yoga mat at Bikram. And I don't care for doggie at all. Slow and intense and gentle does it for me. No friction at all for a while is lovely. Tantra, baby. That said, it is fun when doing a small, thin, petite woman (all too infrequently, alas), to pick her up and carry her around the house, still locked in coitus. And, towards the end, getting slightly faster/rougher just happens naturally, and always feels good.
August 13, 2008 1:59 PM
Anonymous said:
Wow. All of your responses both turn me on and make me sad. I'm a guy and I've never had rough sex with a woman. My sex life has always been lousy. You men are lucky.
August 16, 2008 8:33 PM

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